Snark

My goal in being a blogger is multi-fold. I vent a bit, about the strange and inexplicable things that happen when you move to a foreign country. I try very hard to be amusing if at all possible. I started doing this for the same reasons that many people do, I wanted to document my experiences and thought that it might be fun to turn into a book (even if only a self-published volume like that of the awesome Female Science Professor, which got reviewed favorably in Nature of all places!)

I’ve been pleasantly surprised lately at the whole concept of the “blogging community”–people who read each others’ blogs regularly, and mostly I find myself reading and commenting on those of other expats–primarily but not exclusively Brits in the states and Americans over here. To me, this has formed a little network of cyber-friends, I don’t know these people in real life (i.e. in person) but over time a sort of pseudo-friendship develops that adds something bright and shiny to my average day, especially when I’m having a rough time and looking for someone to “talk” to (or perhaps, more appropriately given the media, to “talk” AT).

I came to blogging through a blog-like web forum for my technical community. When I first arrived here in the UK I would sometimes type notes about my experiences on my computer, but it was not until about 6 months after I moved here that I started writing in this sort of forum for anyone to see. For a short time I even maintained two separate blogs with completely unrelated names and posting pseudonyms; the second version has disappeared now that I got what I wanted to discuss off my chest, so to speak, as it was on a very specific topic.

The thing that motivates this post, and that has been puzzling me, is the tendency for people to post very negative comments on blogs. I don’t really understand the point–why waste the energy going to the trouble of making snarky comments about someone who you don’t even know? I’m all for the spirit of debate, for the discussions to be passionate and enthusiastic, but what does a person get out of extremely negative commentary? If the idea of this type of forum is related to a diary more than anything else, what is the purpose of saying “your opinion is all wet” when it’s just that, an opinion, an impression, a feeling? Investigative journalism may be the realm of many blogs, but it is not in my experience the purpose behind expat blogs or other personal stories that people have opened up their hearts to share with the world at large. It seems to me like it’s a waste of energy sending out so much negativity into cyberspace.

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4 responses to “Snark

  1. What if I’m snarky and rude but add a smiley face? Then you know that I intend my mean comments in a light, jocular way…. šŸ˜‰

  2. I write four blogs and have been blogging for about two years. I come across a negative comment (of the derogatory type) very rarely. When I do, I have no compunction about deleting it. I’ve mostly been happily surprised by how positive most people I’ve come across are.

    Expat 21
    “Expat Abroad”
    expat21.wordpress.com

  3. hello, from a fellow expat. I’m an American living in Spain. Not quite sure how I came across your blog, but I’m always happy when I find another expat of whatever nationality in whatever part of the world.

    My main objective with blogging was to maintain ties to other Americans. I find that living abroad, the Americans I socialize and become friends with are ones that I might not really be friends with if we were back in our home country. In other words, what we have in common is the fact that we are expats and understand both Spanish and American culture – no small thing for sure, but I miss friends that I’m friends with for their personalities and the many things we have in common aside from this Spain thing, not because we find ourselves in this similar cultural situation.

    In terms of the negative comments, I haven’t had much experience with that myself. If I don’t agree with something I read, I usually just “walk away”.

  4. Hello NFAH
    Thanks for such an inspiring post. I completely relate to your experiences in terms of finding support by reading other’s blogs and feeling like there are shared ideas.
    Just so you know, we get the same snarky crap over on our blog that you get too… usually we just delete them. Its a great feeling to send it all away. Life is too short to waste energy on dealing with bad vibes.
    Just so you know, I love your blog and learn alot from your experiences. šŸ˜‰

    we’re just trying to

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